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  1. Ginger,

    I am the founder/president of Child’s World America and we are starting up a new publishing platform, Child’s World News. I’m looking for writers and your blogs might benefit from some additional exposure. Also, Child Abuse is one of the top three priorities we’ve identified as focus areas during our inaugural launch period. We’d like to discuss further organizational efforts around this subject. Would love to have you as a member (its free) and to discuss possibly working in mutual support.


    1. Hello, Bill!

      It’s an honor to e-meet you — thanks for connecting. I would love to help and am impressed by the Child’s World Website and mission: Count me in and I invite others to check you out, as well. The more we collaborate and support one another in child abuse prevention and child protection efforts, the more kids we’ll be able to protect.


  2. I sincerely hope you are proud of yourself, you really need to be. Your dedication and commitment is inspirational. I hope many people working in child protection who appreciate your work, like me are motivated even more to safeguard children, wherever and whoever they are or may be. It gives me much needed strength to know people like you are making such a huge difference to the lives of our young.

    Take care

    1. Peter,

      I can’t thank you enough for your kind note! It sounds like you are also in the field of child protection, so please allow me to thank YOU for the work YOU do to help protect children. Your kind words, in turn, give me continued motivation to carry on and try my best to make a difference one child at a time. Thanks so much for your support and keep fighting the good fight!


  3. In my book, What Should You Do? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century, Tate Publishing 2010.
    I spend most of my time in the book, teaching children to recognizing and Say No to Bad
    Behavior. For each grade level, we discuss through the stories of real little safety heroes what to do and how to do it. With the strategy of No, Go and Tell, each child learns that they are powerful,
    That they can handle this. That the telling will most probably stop this from happening to another child. When I speak to a school of a thousand children, I know I speak to two audiences, those who have never been the victim of bad behavior and those who know too well. Then give them the tools they need to handle the stumbling blocks that they will each face, so that they grow up to be Happy, Healthy empowered adults ready to teach the next generation.

    1. Hello, Melinda! It sounds like your book and speaking with children are making an impact — thank you for teaching such important and valuable life lessons! I love your “No, Go and Tell” motto — not only is it ‘catchy’ (so I’ll bet it really resonates with kids), but it’s a powerful message every child should know. Thanks so much for sharing your book information and for taking time to write. Keep up your good work!


  4. Hi, Ginger, thanks for following us on Twitter!

    I’m glad to know of websites where people are empowering families-in-crisis in more ways than one! 🙂

    1. Hello and thanks for your note… thanks, too, for finding me here. So glad to have you in our BeAKidsHero community! <3


  5. I would like to understand why you think the sex offender registry is a good idea since you yourself claim (rightly so) that 90% of victims are abused by someone they know like a father or uncle. Since this is true and the vast majority of offenders never re-offend you are endorsing the destruction of thousands of peoples lives who are no threat to anyone. In a large city with lets say 10,000 offenders the following is most likely true. Only 5% are predators, so 500 people. Of those only 10% will re-offend. So 50 people. And of those most will be with a family member and since they cannot live with or near children we end up with about 2 people out of 10,000 that are an actual threat to society. Meanwhile there are no robbery offender lists, neither murder, assault, theft or any other type of crime. And with these crimes which are committed against strangers and have a high rate of recidivism we have no lists! So good for you for making sure that the ones who can be rehabilitated will never be and letting the ones who can’t go free. The sex offender list should not be public, it is a disgrace. If we list them then let’s list all crimes, hell let’s put everyone on a list and publicize it so that vigilantes can go take retribution out on them. The predators are one thing but the vast majority are simple internet pervs and the reality is, oddly enough, that staying on the internet keeps them off the street in the same way that adult porn keeps johns at home instead of prowling for a hooker. There are many studies on this. Although your intent and work is admirable your thoughts on the SOR are sadly out of touch with reality and show your true vindictiveness. You want these people on a list so they can’t live anywhere, like in Miami, so they can’t work, so they can’t get better. You and people like you will ensure that there will be many more offenders to come and the ones who could have gotten better never will. Like I said I applaud your positive work but to endorse the SOR is simply ignorant and barbaric of you.

    1. John,

      I appreciate you taking the time to write – you obviously put a great deal of thought into your note.

      I’m curious to know the source of your 10% recidivism rate… I’m not familiar with that. Studies/research with which I’m familiar indicate rates that are a bit higher, the most recent one I’ve seen (dated this year, 2015 out of Canada) sites: “The overall recidivism rates (14% after 5 years, 20% after 10 years and 24% after 15 years) were similar for rapists (14%, 21% and 24%) and the combined group of child molesters (13%, 18%, and 23%). There were, however, significant differences between the child molesters, with the highest rates observed among the extrafamilial boy-victim child molesters (35% after 15 years) and the lowest observed rates for the incest offenders (13% after 15 years).” Older info (dated from a WSJ article in 2008) suggests recidivism rates as high as 50%+. I can understand this is a difficult number to assess as so much sexual abuse is done in secret/private. I would be very interested in seeing any legitimate studies you can share that address the successful rehabilitation of sexual predators… seriously! Please do send that research my way.

      The “SMART” Office of Justice Program website states: “While recidivism has long been a concern of criminal justice practitioners and policymakers, it has received renewed attention in recent years due to the record number of convicted offenders living in our communities. Research has demonstrated that repeat offenders account for a disproportionate amount of crime and that offenders released from prison are arrested at rates 30 to 45 times higher than the general population (Rosenfeld, Wallman, & Formango, 2005). As a result, there is widespread recognition today that recidivism has a direct impact on public safety and that recidivism reduction should be a key goal of the criminal justice system. This is particularly true with regard to crimes that are sexual in nature, given their impact on individual victims and the larger community (see chapter 1, “Incidence and Prevalence of Sexual Offending,” in the Adult section). Unfortunately, recidivism remains a difficult concept to measure, especially in the context of sex offenders. The surreptitious nature of sex crimes, the fact that few sexual offenses are reported to authorities, and variation in the ways researchers calculate recidivism rates all contribute to the problem. The measurement problems found in sex offender recidivism research no doubt have contributed to a lack of consensus among researchers regarding the proper interpretation of some research findings and the validity of certain conclusions. While there is broad agreement that observed recidivism rates are not true reoffense rates, the magnitude of the gap between observed and actual reoffending, the propensity of sex offenders to reoffend over the life course, and whether it is valid to characterize sex offender recidivism rates as low or high are examples of key issues that are subject to divergent viewpoints.3 While debate concerning the interpretation and policy implications of research findings occurs in many public safety areas, it is both pronounced and ongoing in the context of sex offender recidivism.”

      Regarding “Internet pervs”, demand for child pornography is 100% market-driven. If there was no demand for child porn, there would be none. So, on the point that the Internet “keeps them off the street”, I will have to strongly disagree…the fact that they are online is indeed driving demand and putting more children in jeopardy.

      John, we will have to agree to disagree on the value of the SOR. If nothing else, I would hope it would be a deterrent to sexual predators to not commit such crimes in the first place. As someone who deeply values and wants to protect children, the SOR is one more tool at the community’s disposal to help protect our little ones from potential danger.


      1. You’ve collected a lot of statistics from various agencies and used them in your argument. And that can work. My 10% argument is an extrapolation of the very wide range of offenses that can put a person on the list. Read this article You can be put on the list for urinating in public, sexting your girlfriend, showing breasts in public. Or like the recent story of a couple in Florida who got a little too cozy on the beach and are being threatened with 15 years in prison and life on the list. So my 10% is the number of people on the list who deserve to be there in the first place like predators. I like most people don’t mind being warned if a violent criminal is living next door but I am not a fanatic about it. We all make mistakes and should be allowed to repair ourselves, the list makes this impossible.

        There are many studies you can find which do prove that internet pervs are less likely to act out. Just look for some. It is possible to find defenses to either side of a debate. Think of this. There used to be jackoff movie theaters in most large cities and adult stores which had dancers behind glass you could watch. Well they are all gone and those men who frequented them are gone as well. Now they sit in front of a computer and do the same thing. You are right that there is a supply and demand equation here, very much like the war on drugs (a huge failure I might add), people will always want things that don’t fit the societal norm. It’s been like that since the beginning of time. So internet porn demand is no different than any demand, whether in a theater or on the street. That will never change. The point is that these people will at least not offend in real life if they get their satisfaction in their living room. And that is what the studies I’ve read state. As to the children who are abused, again it is like the failed war on drugs which sought to cut off supply and never did. So what’s the answer, well I don’t know, I don’t know that anybody does except to wipe out humanity. I think in the absence of any solid solution we should we should teach and educate. But long prison sentences and even longer list will never solve the problem. There has to be a very big line drawn between violent offenders that harm people and those that don’t. For instance the internet perv could probably be cured with treatment and monitoring while the dad who molests his daughter probably is too far gone for help and needs to be in prison and on a list. The sexting teen should not go to prison or be on a list, they shouldn’t even see the inside of a courtroom.

        The SOR does absolutely nothing to protect your children or anyone’s. That has also been statistically proven. It does not serve as a deterrent in any way shape or form, exactly the opposite is true as studies show. The above referenced article will confirm this. I agree that children need to be protected, loved and nurtured, but think of this. What happens to the child whose parent is on the list for one of the stupid reasons. That child could be treated badly at school, not be allowed to play with certain friends, etc… How does that help the child, simply put, it doesn’t. Like I said in my first post, if we are going to put sex offenders on a list than we should put everyone on a list. We could have drunk driver lists, speeder lists, excessive parking ticket lists, petit theft lists and even list for people who don’t keep a tidy house….where does it stop.

        I want a decent society as much as you but the truth is these lists accomplish nothing. If you look for these reports you can find them, just google “stop the sex offender registry” and you’ll get 507,000 results.

        As I said I like all the positive aspects of your effort, but the list is draconian at best and destructive at worst. Please do research the “other” side of the coin and I think you might find a new way to look at things. For example go to youtube and watch Lisa Ling’s America and watch the one about people on the list. You will get an insight into the real damage this list does.

        Again I am not defending the crimes. I am defending the offenders right to rehabilitate him/herself. The list all but makes this impossible. At least don’t make the list public, this is nothing but a witch hunt. I live in Canada where the list is only available to police and the crime rate in Canada is considerably lower than in the US. The reality is that the police already know where all the bad guys are, at least for the most part and their list only gives them an address, so far they haven’t needed it!

        Wow that’s a long post isn’t it. I just seem to ramble sometimes. Truth is I didn’t even think you would put it up let alone respond. That tells me you have an open mind and a kind heart.

    1. Hello, Claudine… and please allow me to send kudos back your way! I have shared/retweeted info you and your team have posted. So great to connect with you. I will send you an email directly.


    1. Hello, Michelle! Thanks for you note. A great way to support the BeAKidsHero effort is by sharing information among your circle of influence to help raise awareness. The more we share and educate one another on ways to prevent and protect children from abuse, the greater a collective impact we will have. Thank YOU so very much for your support!!! Great to connect with you.


  6. Hi Ginger,

    I checked out your website, joined you Facebook group and we follow you on Twitter too. You are doing an amazing job, I wish there were more people like you!

    We are Bedtime Bedding, a toy startup aiming to change the way children go to bed. We believe, that parents should spend more quality time with their children and we created something to help them with bedtime stories.

    If you like our project it would be awesome if you could introduce us to your followers. We just started and we need every bit of help to succed on Kickstarter.

    Thank you and keep up the awesome job!

    Best regards,

    1. Hello Gabor and friends at Bedtime Bedding!

      Thanks for writing and for sharing your products… I’m very impressed with what I see on your website. I’m a HUGE supporter of activities that involve creativity and engagement between parents and kids… your bedding appears to encourage both. Let me know if you are ever interested in collaborating in a giveaway or something. 😉 Best of luck to you and it’s certainly nice to meet you!


  7. Hi Ginger, I read you are a forensic interviewer? I need to find out just what the rules are these days for conducting a forensic interview. My interest concerns family members in foster care. I’ve looked before for standards, but never found any. I hope you can help me research this topic! Thanks, Stacy

    1. Stacy,

      I would be happy to share information about the forensic interviewing process, based on the protocol in which I am trained called “Child First™” (see I invite you to read some of my previous blogs about this topic, including:, and Please don’t hesitate to email me at if you have additional questions that are not addressed in these articles — I’m happy to help you if I can.


  8. Hi Ginger,

    How terrific to find you, and the work you do. I too am dedicated to doing all I can to bring awareness, education, truth and a bright light on the growing epidemic of sexual abuse. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of my father then my step father, an uncle and finally molested by my step sister. I was unaware of how deeply these experiences affected me until everything came crashing down. Through the years healing my own trauma my true purpose and passion was revealed. I am now a Trauma Recovery & Wellness Coach specializing in helping women recover from sexual abuse. My journey like so many has been both difficult and rewarding.

    I would love to connect with you perhaps even collaborate on a project in the future.

    Thank you for being an advocate and voice for awareness & change…


    1. Kimberle,

      Please forgive me for my delayed response! I am so very sorry… I somehow didn’t see your note come in my inbox. My deepest apologies!

      Thank you for taking the time to write and share your story. I’m very sorry to hear you had to endure what you did. Thank YOU for your strength and courage in turning a horrific experience into a way to help others. You are indeed an inspiration! I always appreciate collaborating with others — feel free to email me at if/when you like.

      Take care and thanks again for writing!


  9. Thanks so much sister,child abuse has been a scenario factor to be addressed in our nation Kenya.How best palatable services will you do to reach to us in our nation that many kids in poor families are the victims of frustration and even abandon education at early age especially in western country.Love to hear from you.

  10. What can we do to help survivors of major childhood abuse as adults? Who have been brainwashed into thinking it is all their fault and can’t seem to stay out of abusive, controlling situations?

    I wish that we could stop all children from being abused but what about the ones who already have been abused and are still suffering the trauma? Thoughts?

  11. Hi, just clicked on your link via Twitter.
    As I am scsa & vehemently want the world to take notice of survivors and end abuse once and for all.
    I am interested in fact 2 Cari (aged 8) begins to wet the bed.
    This is me, but where did you get the data from?

    Saw the reference, but won’t let me use url.
    Thank you for taking time to read and hopefully respond
    Cari x

    1. Hi, Cari! Thanks for your note and question. I’m not sure specifically what data you are referring to (to cite the specific source), but there is some great information about bed wetting on various sites. One such site is the Cleveland Clinic: There are a variety of factors that can contribute to bed wetting, one of which is CSA. Please don’t hesitate to let me know if you have any further questions or if I can be of additional assistance. Feel free to email me anytime at

      Thanks again for writing and I hope this information is helpful to you.


  12. Good ideas. Here’s another one: when I sent my younger son away to college (in a seedy part of town) I suggested that when he walk he project angry thoughts, an attitude, The idea was that victims look like easy marks, soft and vulnerable. An angry person would be a far less attractive target. Of course, he’s a boy, and this anger thing might not work as well with every girl. But in any case he got through 4 years without an incident. I’m grateful for that. .

    1. Interesting idea, Robert. Thanks for sharing and congratulations to your son for graduating college and staying safe at school!


  13. I love this site and cannot wait to have the time to contribute my input to it. This is something near and dear to me. I will be popping in from time to time, but when my restaurant is fully operational and things settle I will be more actively involved in coming here. I am inspired.
    This is something that needs more attention from more people, and I will spread the word.

    Angel Hewer (ANGEL Eatery Inc.)

    1. Angel,

      Thank you for taking time to send your encouraging note of support! Thanks, too, for offering to spread the word and help raise awareness so we can better protect children from abuse. Best of luck to you as you open your restaurant and I look forward to staying connected with you.


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    1. Hello, Mervin! I just came across this kind note from you, so I apologize for my late reply. Thank you for your support — it’s great to have you in the BeAKidsHero community!


  15. Hi Ginger,
    Thanks for following me on Twitter. Congrats! You are my 500th follower and I’d be happy to send a complimentary book to you, from HeartMath. Should you be interested, please let me know your email and the book will be sent electronically.

    You have a wonderful website and I appreciate what you are doing – making a big difference.

    With heart,
    Claudia Davenport

    1. Hello, Claudia! So nice to connect with you. Thank you – I would love to receive a copy of your book — thank you for acknowledging me as your 500th Twitter follower and congrats on your growing audience. 🙂 My email is I look forward to staying in touch.

      Best wishes and thanks again,

  16. Ginger,
    Thank you for being a voice for this issue. As recently declared by President Barack Obama, January is now National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month, culminating in the annual celebration of National Freedom Day on February 1. As fate would have it, I am coordinating production on a documentary that will follow Norma Bastidas as she completes the world’s longest (Guinness approved) triathlon from Cancun, Mexico to Washington D.C. over the course of 32-40 days starting on March 1st. The catch is that Norma is a survivor of sexual violence, abuse, kidnapping and attempted trafficking and she’s decided to do something extraordinary to show the world that we can all do something to end the modern slavery of human trafficking and sexual exploitation and empower the tens of thousands of survivors alive today. Please take 5 minutes to learn more about Norma and her journey, and let me know if you would be interested in writing about or interviewing Norma.

    You may find trailers and more at

    Thank you so much for your time,

    1. Hello, Alexis! Thanks so much for alerting me to Norma’s efforts… what an inspirational woman! I am definitely interested in talking with her and writing about her journey. I’ll send you an email.

      Thanks again for YOUR commitment to this effort to raise awareness and help protect and rescue other victims of trafficking and abuse.


  17. Hi Ginger,
    Thank you so much for your important work, and thanks for following us on Twitter. I would love to know if you have advice and published work for girls 9-14 which is my core demographic. I often talk to girls about self esteem and body image. I would love to find a way to share your advice and work on more of a regular basis. Girls need to prepare for what is to come down the road in college and we need to start early.

    1. Hello, Kim!

      Thanks for writing and for your question. Much of my work/writing crosses age groups, with some delineation between adolescents, tweens and teens. I’m always open to sharing work and collaborating — what thoughts do you have? Another resource with whom I connected on Twitter is Dr. Tim Jordan, MD. He specializes in the health and welfare of girls/teens — he could be a wonderful resource to you and the girls with whom you work. Visit his website at

      Thanks again for writing — it’s wonderful to connect with YOU!


  18. Hello Ginger, thank you for finding/following me on Twitter.. my story is one of an 11 year fight in the UK family court. My son was subjected to gross emotional abuse and Munchausen by Proxy while I appreciate the process of family law may differ to US the principle of getting professionals to realise and recognise the abuse and what was going on will still apply .. bias as I may be, I also think it makes a great read.. and there is a happy end ! … and as two of my son’s godparents were from Indy (Carmel) I could not resist to send you this link … I wish you every success in your mission.. sincerely, Thomas Moore

    1. Hello, Thomas. Thanks for sharing your story and I’m glad to know there is a happy ending! Always love to know about connections to people in my neck ‘o the woods. Thanks for writing and it’s nice to connect with you.


  19. Hi Ginger,
    Thanks for the excellent work you are doing to help end child abuse. Years ago I took care of abused children whose parents were attending Parents Anonymous meetings. Those kids were my inspiration for starting Priceless Parenting – a company dedicated to giving parents the skills to respond to their kids’ behavior in helpful, not hurtful ways.
    I provide various free printable charts for kids and parents including a pledge not to hit kids and parenting vows:
    A couple months ago I ran into a child abuse video on Youtube. Although I tried reporting it in a number of ways (Florida child abuse hotline, FBI) I don’t believe any action has been taken to help this child. The child abuse hotline wouldn’t open a case because I didn’t have the child or parent’s name or the location. However, I’m sure that the FBI could track down who created a video which is why I reported it to them.
    I’ve never heard back from anyone on this. I was deeply frustrated that the child abuse hotline does not take responsibility for tracking down a report like this. If you know of a better way to report this type of abuse, please let me know:

    Best Regards,
    Kathy Slattengren

    1. Hello, Kathy! Thanks so much for connecting with me. I love your Priceless Parenting mission and deeply appreciate the work you do with parents to help rehabilitate poor (… and abusive) parents so they can hopefully raise healthy, happy and safe children.

      Thanks, too, for sharing with me the info about the YouTube video. Glad to know you contacted the FBI and would like to think they are addressing it. May I also suggest contacting the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children? They operate a CyberTipline for, predominantly, leads for children that are sexually exploited; however, I think this would be a great place to start if the video you saw was something other than sexual abuse. Their “Child Victim Identification Program® serves as the central repository in the U.S. for information relating to child victims depicted in sexually exploitive images and videos”… they are experts at identifying kids whose names/IDs are unknown. Additionally, they make their resources/services available to law enforcement around the country, so hopefully they can assist authorities in Florida. I hope this helps!

      Nice to connect with you and thank YOU for the work you are doing to strengthen parents and families!


      1. Hi Ginger,

        Thanks for mentioning the CyberTipline. I’m glad to know that they are experts at identifying kids whose names/IDs are unknown.

        It takes a lot of people working together to help abused kids and their parents. I’m glad I’ve found your site!

        Best Regards,

        Kathy Slattengren

  20. I am intrigued by the work you do. I am Canadian so think there are some huge differences in USA, but not sure. In Canada Sexual Offenders are on a list – but no one knows where that list is, except Family Children Services and Police – when something happens. Nothing seems preventive or rehabilitating the offenders.
    I have a strong need and desire to share my family’s story to help prevent other children from being sexually abused – and for children to learn when to speak up. Also I have a story to tell to other mother’s that find their children have been sexually abused my a spouse.
    Sexual Abuse is a terrible thing to happen to anyone, but heartbreaking when it is a young child. Also the fact that the Offenders really cannot be cured is troubling. More talking needs to happen in order society to heal itself and stop this abuse that has rippling effect outward from the victim.

    1. Hello, Darleen – thanks so much for reaching out to me. Before reading your note, I had NO idea that Canada’s sex offender registry is closed to the public; thanks for sharing that information. I would love to connect with you and will send you an email. Thanks again for your note and for sharing your story.


  21. On behalf of our youth organisation, named AJVDC volunteer youth group, based in Eastern Congo, working to protect children from many abuses from Armed groups, mining exploitation, sexual, others many facts. I’d like to request for financial and technical support for our projects. I call for any support even material and fund. for who are interested to help chidren in Congo where we are living many difficultes becauses of war, poverty,… email : , Goma DRC, Tel: +243 815662837
    Leon Simweragi

    1. Hello, Leon! Thanks for reaching out and for sharing the work you do with children in the Congo.

      All, I don’t have any information about this group other than what is posted above. Sounds like an admirable effort, but I always encourage due diligence in researching causes before sending funds, etc.


  22. Ginger,

    Great site and cause. Would love to talk to you about being a guest on The Empowerment Show ( and possibly partnering with Linked Local. Drop me an email.

    With Love and Joy,

  23. What are your thoughts, feelings on the value of creative arts (visual and literary) therapy for abused children?
    I would love to one day have a studio in which open creativity is encouraged and supported…resources on hand, easels, paint, chalks, etc….
    Then have the studio open to therapy programs on certain days/times.

    1. Hello, Phyllis! While I am not an expert in the therapy arena, I have heard positive things about creative arts therapy for children. May I suggest you contact a children’s therapist in your area — there could be some awesome collaboration opportunities for you! Thanks for asking and I hope you are able to make your vision a reality and have a tremendous impact on helping children heal. Good for YOU… and THANK YOU!!!


  24. Very nice, congrats. Your own website, you’re like a techie now or something, quite shocking! Looks like you have your next mission in life, good luck with the childrens books project!

    best wishes

    1. Thanks, Steve! Actually, I’m a techiie wanna-be… you know what a challenge that is for me. 🙂 Thanks for the well wishes and hope to see you one of these days!


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